Thursday, August 11, 2011

Boys, Boys, Boys

As most people probably already know, I have a second facebook account in which I use to communicate with my YouTube subscribers. It helps people to know when I will have new videos coming out, and what to expect, that way I don't always have to get messages from people asking me when I will be making a new video. Many girls from my public facebook account have asked me for advice with their boyfriends, so maybe this will help other people as well. I really hate talking about this person, but like I said, it may be helpful for people who don't know what to do in crappy relationships. 

The teen years started rolling in, and as everyone knows, that's when the boys do as well. I've had a couple of middle school boyfriends, obviously nothing too serious. I had my first real boyfriend when I was 16, and we've dated on and off the few years before that. I was very, very naive... as most girls are when they fall in love for the first time. And yes, as much as I hate the fact, I was in love. This was the boy I thought I'd be with forever... pretty ridiculous, eh? He told me things that every girl wants to hear, only most of what he told me were lies. Everything seemed really good at first, but after two years, it started going downhill. Basically I knew I shouldn't have been with him, my mom knew, my sister knew, and even my friends knew. They told me all the time, but of course I wouldn't listen. They hated him, and I hated that they hated him. After he broke my heart time and time again, I started to realize the hate my family had for him, and I couldn't blame them. But I couldn't leave him either. Sadly, he had me wrapped around his finger. Knowing he was a burnout, and knowing he was a liar, I stayed. I came to find that he was a more terrible person than I'd thought. He stole from my mom when she supported him, and he continued to lie to me about it.

We finally broke up after two years of bullshit. I was surely devastated, but I am so glad it is finally over. It was painful for a little bit, but time heals everything. My wonderful friends were always there to tell me that, it seemed impossible, but they were right. I am no expert in relationships, but I do know that one boy is not worth all the stress and sadness. Life is supposed to be happy, exciting, and adventurous. And if anyone makes you feel a way you shouldn't, they are not worth being in your life. Letting go seems really hard to do, and you are not going to want to do it at first, but if you know in your heart that it is good for you, then you really don't have a choice if you want to be happy. The key to letting someone go is to cut off all communication with them. It's the only way, continually talking to someone you're trying to let go of is not going to get you anywhere. You need to forget them, burn all photos, and I mean ALL. Deleting photos from any social networking sites that you may have of that person might be a good idea as well. There is no point in saving anything you have left of them. It is such a relief when you know that you are free of that person once and for all. And for every girl who thinks that she'll never love another boy again, think again, because you can, and you will!

If I hadn't let go of that worthless, careless individual, then I would have never met the wonderful man that I am with now. After nearly 2 years, we are still doing great! We started dating in the summer of 2010. Now we live together in the same city we met in. I love him more than I thought I could ever love a boy. He treats me with respect, and he cares for me more than anyone could imagine. He writes me the cutest notes letting me know how much he loves me, and how much he misses me when I am away. He only shows his love for me more and more everyday, which is one of the many reasons I love him so much. He treats me the way I should be treated. Don't get me wrong, we have our arguments, as does every other couple, but I have never been more sure that he is the one. The simplest things we do together are always the funnest! Just going to the park and having swing races to see who can go higher is very enjoyable; or just staying home and playing Black Ops. I enjoy his company very much. My heart is always at home when I am with him. His family is also amazing, the nicest people I have ever met, I love them! It is no surprise that he has turned out to be the gentleman that he is. And my family loves him, that's how you know you picked a winner. ;)

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